Bridging Leadership Lessons from the Workplace and Those Experiences Shaping Today's Youth and Tomorrow's Leaders
  A common theme I write about is being the leader that you need to be and not the leader you like to be. Because leadership is NEVER about you!
Last week, I wrote about 4 Leadership Assumptions to Avoid. I mentioned IMPACT Leadership as a way to flex your leadership style to what is needed by your team members. Today, I’m going to break down what IMPACT Leadership is all about. Leaders Have to Flex When I was a new manager, I was introduced to Ken Blanchard’s Situational Leadership™ which focused on changing your leadership style to match the willingness and the ability of the employee. I really connected with this concept, but the quadrant tool and verbiage were clunky and did not translate well to the newer generation. So, I adapted this approach to my own teachings in the 3 Pillars of Impact and it evolved into IMPACT Leadership. To drive home the importance of a leader flexing to the needs of their team, we start with self-reflection. With which style are you most comfortable operating? Which is your preferred approach. Which has the least amount of stress. The Four Leadership Styles All four leadership styles are needed and have value. Each style has a time and place depending upon the team member. Many times, people will try to choose the one they THINK they should be instead of being honest with themselves about how they like to lead. Regardless of your comfort or preference, it’s not about you. Failure to recognize what is needed by your team member can lead to disengagement, toxicity, and turnover. That’s why we look internally first, to confirm our style, before looking externally at our team. Knowing Your Team Unlike the Leadership Styles, we use a Readiness Level to assess the team member. They are listed below in order based upon whether they have the necessary skills as well as the confidence or willingness to move forward. While there is a progression to their readiness level, it is not an all-encompassing categorization of the team member, it is associated with specific tasks and responsibilities. So, a person could be at a certain readiness level 90% of the time, but for a specific task they may drop or rise to a different level. Newbie - Lacking the skills, confidence, & willingness Typically, new to the team and lacks experience. Also, they may be familiar to the team but are gaining new responsibility. Think about a technical expert that gets promoted to a supervisory role because of their success. They have never been a manager and are not sure what to do. They have been an individual contributor and spent most time working alone. Growing - Lacking the skills but is confident & willing May not know what to do, but they are not afraid. Excited for the opportunity but need some guidance. Crossroads - Has ability but may lack confidence or willingness I use this to think about people that are being asked to take on an expanded role that may be out of their comfort zone. They may not feel that they have the ability, but you know they do. Also, found in people that are coasting and may be getting too comfortable in their role. Impact Player - Has ability, is confident & eager Get out of their way! These are the stars that you need to make sure have alignment on the purpose and then make sure they know that they are appreciated. Be the Leader Your Team Needs This is not one size fits all. Your leadership style needs to be adopted to the person AND the situation. In my very first management role almost 30 years ago, I wanted to be the empowering leader… I had read books! But, when it was a new team that didn’t have experience or confidence in the roles that were being asked of them, they struggled. They didn’t have clarity, nor did they know how to move forward. I failed them as a leader. I was the leader I wanted to be and not the leader they needed to be successful. Awareness is the unsung hero of great leaders. It is absolutely critical that a leader has self-awareness and awareness of those around them. You must understand the needs of your team - when they need temporary “micromanagement” to help learn skills and gain confidence, and when they simply need the encouraging words and validation that they are moving in the right direction. To be the leader your team needs, you need to lead them how they need to be led. Having alignment on why you are using that style is very important to help them with their own self-awareness. Your ability to flex is what will help your team continue to grow Beyond Today.
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 During some of my IMPACT Coaching sessions last week, I saw a pattern where experienced leaders fell into the Assumption Trap. You know what happens when you assume… that’s right you make an A$$ out of U and ME. But it is so easy to fall into the Assumption Trap, probably even more so for the experienced leader.
We will take a look at four common assumptions made by leaders. Assumption 1: Because I said to do it, they will do it. In your best imitation of Captain Picard from Star Trek: The Next Generation you told your manager what you need and finish with a “Make it so…” and it doesn’t happen. It’s easy to get comfortable with your team. You know each other. They do a great job. They are proactive. We are on the same page. Then, on some days, they nod at you as if they understand and it never gets put into place. A Leadership Tool I use to help in this area I call Connecting the Whys. It is an essential tool used in creating a shared vision but also one essential in IMPACT Teams and Engaged Leadership. We will touch on Connecting the Whys as we look at the next two Leadership Assumptions that are typically buried in this first one. You need to Connect the Whys. Assumption 2: They understand what success looks like. Did you verify with them that when you said “Make it so” that they understood what “SO” means? Is their picture of “SO” the same as your “SO”? Did you deliver a suggestion or possibly a nice to have? Did you explain it was urgent or something that can happen when they get around to it? Did you explain the WHY? Just because it is clear in your mind doesn't mean it translated the same way to them. In my 3 Pillars of Impact, the 2nd Pillar is Expect Excellence in yourself and others. One of the activities we do is to identify, in detail, what success looks like for each of your team members. It’s amazing how when you ask a leader if their team member knows what success looks like they say yes, but when you follow that up with if I ask them to put it down on paper, without you in the room, will they say yes… they get quiet. You need to create understanding. Assumption 3: Since they say they understand, then we must be aligned. Just because they understand doesn’t mean they agree. Just because they may agree with you doesn’t mean that they are aligned on what needs to happen and how it needs to happen. Back to the Picard reference, even though you both understand what the “SO” means, it doesn’t mean you are aligned about how to make “SO” happen. As a leader, you need an understanding first on the importance of how the “SO” looks. If it’s not that important, then you must be prepared to accept their “SO” even if it doesn’t look like your “SO.” If it is important, the onus is on you to make sure you have alignment on what is “good enough”. You then must verify that expectations are established, understood and that there is clarity around the end-result. You need to make sure you have alignment. Assumption 4: Because you know each other well, you don’t have to change how you lead. “They know me." "They know what I mean." "They know how I operate.” Sound familiar? When we get comfortable with relationships or with positions, it’s easy to think things will move forward with momentum. That we have it all under control and that we know what we are doing. But that is the biggest Leadership Trap of all… we think we arrived, and that leadership comes naturally. In IMPACT Leadership, we remind people that Leadership is not about you, but about those you lead. You need to flex your leadership style based upon what is needed by your team member. (Next week, I will talk more about IMPACT Leadership) It’s not about how WE like to operate, it’s about what they need to be successful. Sometimes they simply need to be empowered to get it done. Other times, when they lack confidence because something is new or they lack some critical skills, we need to be more directive with our leadership approach. Leadership is not a one size fits all approach. Leaders need to flex their approach to what is needed to help the team succeed. Leaders need to be on the lookout for the Assumption Trap… it happens to new and experienced leaders alike. As a leader, you need to be vigilant so that you don’t make an A$$ out of U and ME, Beyond Today.  Through my experiences in the workforce and in sports, I can safely say that success is found where great teams exist. The sad reality is that great teams are not nearly as common as they should be and more importantly, could be.
We will take a quick look at the four steps I use to help teams understand what it means to be a great team in their world and then align them so that they individual pieces will fit together and foster that culture of success. In my leadership development work, defining the traits and behaviors of great teams is an activity that we do in the beginning of each session. When combined with the traits of a great leader, it’s easy to tell that people understand the characteristics of a great team. So why is there such difficulty in creating great teams? Teams are built. A few unicorns may exist that seem to have a natural connection but the alignment that happens “naturally” comes through the same process. The 4 Steps to an IMPACT Team Before I ever get into the 4 steps, I work with the teams on the #1 trait referenced from my sessions, communication. While we won’t be divining into it here, we would take time to understand the communication style of the individuals, how it is experienced by others, and then work on ways that we can use that awareness to build stronger connections. Foundational Value System It all starts with Trust & Respect. You must build, establish, give it and ultimately earn it for the team to have a chance. We tie it back to communication and make sure that they are listening to understand to demonstrate that they value what their teammate is saying. We open up about the importance of transparency and vulnerability while showing the courage to make deposits in others' emotional bank accounts. We focus on what we can control and where we have influence instead of dwelling in those areas of concern. Shared Vision While I have a detailed session that works on creating an organizational wide shared vision that aligns departments as well as the hierarchy, this is a focused approach that is solely directed at why the team exists. What are the team goals? What do they mean to each individual and how can they impact them? This is the step where we create understanding. The KARS Process Once we understand why the team exists and the goal(s) that they are trying to achieve, we then focus on alignment. The approach I use for this, I have called the KARS process. It’s a 4-step method of making sure that the team is aligned on the roles necessary for this group of individuals to move from a good team to a great team. While the methodology is the same, regardless of the team, the roles and how they align are unique to the team as you must take into account the goal(s) as well as the skill sets of the individuals. K – Knowing the Roles A – Accepting the Roles R – Respecting the Roles S – Starring in the Roles Move to IMPACT In the first 3 steps, we laid out all the pieces to build a great team. We understand the roles, we know how they align, and now we need to start taking action to make the changes necessary for the pieces to be put together. We utilize commitment tools such as I Will vs I Want and share our I SEE YOUs where, individually and as a team, we recognize and share the value of our teammates and their role in making a great team. A lot of teams want to be great but are not always willing to get past their own ego, their own fears, their own biases to do what it takes. This process is a proven way to define how your team can become an IMPACT Team, and then create a pathway to move your team, Beyond Today. —--- If you would like to find out more about how we can help your team become an IMPACT Team DM me so we can set up a time to talk.  When I chose the name, Serve2Lead for my business, I wanted to capture what I felt I was called to do. But I also wanted it to serve as a reminder to myself that I have to focus on Serving and Leading even when life shows up in ways that flood you with emotions and stress.
In some ways, it has always come natural to me and something I never thought much about focusing on. Others would describe what I did as service, but I never felt it was really accurate as it seemed that the way they described it seemed much more noble than I felt. How we view ourselves, knowing our thoughts, inner voices and feelings, doesn’t always support the image others see and experience. Our fears, anxiety and anger are a part of what shapes us but that is the part people don’t see. It’s how the sausage is made! Servant Leadership My mentor, Steve Moles, shared a book with me early in our relationship called, The Way of the Shepherd written by Dr. Kevin Leman and William Pentak. It drove home the message of Servant Leadership which has been at the forefront of how I have tried to lead, but maybe not always as successful as I intended. I started writing this blog as part of my journey to become a more intentional leader - to serve otters through leading. The topics I have chosen to write about were ones that were relevant to my experiences with others and areas that I hoped could connect and help others, even if they didn’t recognize that they needed help. The Serve2Lead Logo I bring this up because it comes back to why I chose the name, Serve2Lead. When creating the logo, I felt it was important to include the circular arrows. It reinforces that while you must Serve to Lead, I wanted to call out why I choose to Lead, and the reason is to Serve. It also serves as a reminder that lives and actions are connected and that what you do impacts others - either positively or negatively. I used the number two, not just to be trendy, but I wanted a reminder that to be successful you need both. You can Serve and not Lead just as you can Lead and not Serve. But to truly be a Person of Impact you need to do both. Fostering a Serve2Lead Culture Establishing #LeadersLead is another part of my Serve2Lead journey. It is a free monthly, virtual gathering where leaders discuss pertinent topics facing leaders today. I use the subtitle, Leaders Growing Together because we don’t have to be alone on this journey. Others have travelled a similar road, maybe with similar experiences and different reactions. What can we learn from others? What can we share with others? If you have not yet participated in a #LeadersLead session, you can watch the past sessions and then register for the next session and join us in the Leadership Arena. The Serve2Lead mindset is at the heart of the 3 Pillars of Impact. The approach used in our development sessions, in the individual and small group IMPACT Coaching, is all about how we can make an impact through serving others. We say it’s about building a culture of success, because it’s based on a culture of serving. So that’s it! That’s why I chose Serve2Lead. My energy comes from the opportunity to Serve AND to Lead. That energy is used to feed others and in turn is used to fuel me. Whether you choose to Serve to Lead or you Lead to Serve, you are choosing to make an impact, Beyond Today.  Celebrating failure to protect someone's feelings is a pathway to another failure. It’s what you do with the failure that matters.
I recently spent time with an organization engaging their leadership in a session on the 3 Pillars of Impact: Building a Culture of Success. During our conversation around the 2nd Pillar, Expect Excellence, we were discussing the power of learning from mistakes. F.A.I.L. - First Attempt In Learning I shared the adage that FAIL stands for First Attempt In Learning. Participants responded with stories of their own and you could hear enthusiasm in their voices as they talked about the growth that comes from failing, about getting beyond your comfort zone and the power found when you stretch your potential. Afterwards, an attendee texted me a Mark Twain quote his father shared numerous times growing up. “Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement.” It was a great connection we shared as a group on that common message. The Leader's Mindset That evening, as I was scrolling through X and reflecting on the day, I came across a post from Dr. Jim Afremow who has written some excellent books such as The Champion’s Mind & The Leader’s Mind. He wrote: “Failure doesn’t automatically equal learning - It’s how we approach it that counts. Reflecting on what didn’t work, seeking feedback, and adjusting our mindset turn failure into a meaningful lesson. Without that, failure is just a waste of time.” This really hit home to me and something I realized was really easy to get caught up in when you are trying to move people forward. In coaching, we try to not dwell on what “you did” but more on what “we need” in an effort to spend time on the behavior we want instead of on the one we don’t. But sometimes, people need to know that there needs to be a change. To recognize what needs to change. Then celebrate making the change - to celebrate action and not just desire. I had written in the past about Helicopter Parents in a Road Less Traveled where parents have a tendency to try and make life easier with their kids. It continues in the workplace as cultures have become People-Easy thinking that is how you create engagement but instead you are reinforcing a behavior that doesn’t recognize the importance of overcoming obstacles. Focus on the Response to Failure As leaders, we have to be careful that we are conveying the right message. We love that you push the boundaries. Failure is okay… as long as we learn and grow from that failure. You don’t say “Nice try, but you failed.” Just like you don’t say, “that’s okay everyone fails, you’ll do better next time,” and walk away without expecting a course correction. It has to be “nice try, it didn’t work out, NOW what adjustments can you make to get success?” I have written much on this topic in previous articles:
Because you can’t cover this topic enough. Success is built upon the foundation of failure, but only when you choose to adjust - to learn and grow - and find a new pathway or be better prepared to travel the same pathway. Don’t Celebrate Failure It’s trendy to celebrate failure. But instead of celebrating failure maybe we should simply acknowledge it and NOT demonize it. Then, we only celebrate if we do something with it. We don’t celebrate failure in order to save someone’s feelings. We wait for the response. We cheer as they rise to their feet and we celebrate when we see the change, the growth, in the person. Failure is an investment. There is a price for failure. Time, money, reputation, and products. Some failures can be life altering and in the extreme case resulting in loss of life. So, what are you going to do with your new opportunity? How will you rebound? How will you use this experience to make a positive impact Beyond Today?  Creating a shared vision has been a centerpiece of the 3 Pillars of Impact and a topic throughout my blogs, talks and development sessions.
The more 3 Pillars of Impact sessions I led, the more it became evident that the shared vision concept was having a tremendous impact on the attendees. What I used as a story to highlight the importance of building a successful culture, was something they wanted to hear more about. They wanted to know how they could build this within their organization. Something I had considered to be a foundation of the process was something they considered to be the outcome of the process - and something they wanted to experience first-hand. Something they needed help in implementing. The 6 Steps So, to help these organizations and the leaders struggling to break down silos between groups and foster employee engagement, I dug deeper into the concept that I had taken for granted and introduced the 6 steps to create a shared vision. Step 1: Define the Vision The vast majority of organizations today already have an established vision statement to use as a starting point. In some cases, we will create a vision statement for the Department or Division that supports the larger vision of the entity. So, whether it already exists or is being created, we start with Top Management and peel back the onion to either confirm or uncover the why’s of the organization. We establish understanding and create alignment that the vision, as written or with adjustments, can serve as the why to connect the rest of the organization. Step 2: Refine the Vision In this step, we move away from the board room or executive lounge, and we take those Division Leaders who were at the first session with Top Management, and we had back to their areas. Each of these leaders will gather their leadership teams and key drivers so we can work together and define what the vision established in step 1 means to their teams. Can we translate the high-level vision to something that will connect to the teams, unit and staff? Is the message understandable and relatable to them or is it a total miss that will leave disconnect and frustration? WARNING: If your management team does not have a good feel for the staff, then you need to bring in next level people that have a better connection. This is the critical part of the process in that if it doesn’t connect with staff, then the vision will be viewed as an edict from on high and will never truly be shared. Step 3: The 3 R’s (Reflect, Review, Revamp) We reconvene the Top Management group to reflect on the initial Vision message after the discussions in Step 2. We reflect and compare “translations” that were uncovered in the Division discussions and consider the best ways to refine the vision. At this point, we should be confident that we have an understandable and uniting vision. Step 4: Finalize the Vision We head back to the Division Teams, explain the adjustments and set to work creating the messaging. This is where the introduction or roll-out plans are created and defined to make sure we have a good approach to connect the whys of the organization to the why of the teams. Step 5: Creating the Vision This is where the magic actually happens. To me this was the easy part because I had spent time establishing and reinforcing the 3 Pillars of Impact. But for some organizations that do not have a history of empowerment and are more autocratic in nature, well this where the work really begins. This is where we take the time to show how each of the teams and each of the staff members fit into the vision. The first 4 steps were about deciding what we were going to paint and then start painting the picture enough that people could see the potential. This step is not just about showing the staff where they fit into the picture but trusting them enough to hand over the paint brush and let them paint themselves into the picture. We connect their whys, show how everyone benefits, and then create ownership plans showing how their actions connect to the vision. Step 6: Owning the Vision To reinforce ownership you must build the Expect Excellence mindset and a great way to do that is through showing progress on your ownership plans. We establish monthly check-in sessions with the Division Teams where we celebrate successes and understand the challenges. We make adjustments because we reinforce a culture to Be Better Today. Quarterly, we meet with the Division Leadership to see if we are moving the needle in engagement levels and to assess if we are making alignment to the vision. We repeat this with Top Management to identify if there are best practices to found at certain Divisions that could be applied to others. We can reinforce or adjust our approach to connecting with staff. Because at all levels, we can Be Better Today. The vision must be more than a poster on the wall or an About Us page on your website. It is the unifying force behind your culture. It’s where you connect the whys to give your staff the Vision to see Beyond Today.  This makes the 7th year that I have participated in Jon Gordon’s #OneWord challenge. It’s a process I look forward to each year - one of reflection, contemplation and aspiration.
The process is straightforward. You ask yourself three questions to create a mindset of growth:
Once you have your internal balance, you start reaching outwards and go through this simple prayer: What do you want to do in me and through me? That question becomes a discussion that will eventually lead you to an answer. I shared my emotional and powerful experience when I uncovered my first One Word in 2019, LISTEN. The majority of my One Word experiences are much more subtle but when the word comes to you, you simply know it is the word. My One Word This year’s One Word came to me while walking on the treadmill one morning. As I was repeating my prayer, I had words popping in and out of my mind. Certain words would bring excitement, and I would think “maybe this is…” and then just as quickly that word would leave, and another word would appear. Then my One Word came forth. RESOLVE. It came with a sense of finality. It was a matter of fact and didn’t leave room for debate. The word was heavy. Instead of my mind racing, it dug deeper into the reasoning showing where it has been missing from my actions and experiences where it will be valuable going forward. Confident with my choice, I then looked up the definition. (Yes, I was still on the treadmill… PSA, don’t do this at home!) Upon reading the definition, the final moment of validation had arrived. Verb
WHOA! That’s it! It fits equally well as a verb and a noun. A reminder that there are issues I have failed to address and that in life, I need to call upon and display RESOLVE to reach my goals. Validation of My One Word Finding my One Word, took me down a rabbit hole of searching for references. I found a quote from Wayne Dyer that is so appropriate to my stage in life: “There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love, there’s only scarcity of resolve to make it happen.” My mind took me back to the previous Church service, when the passtor shared the story of Daniel refusing to break the dietary laws and eat the King’s food and drink his wine. Daniel showed resolve, despite being in a foreign land under the suppression / service of a mortal king, he showed a firm determination to carry out what he saw as alignment with God’s will. Daniel demonstrated a steadfast purpose that I feel has been lacking in my own spirit. Since I have crossed over my halftime of life (check out Bob Buford book titled, Halftime: Moving from Success to Significance) and have since entered the second half with Serve2Lead, I feel that I have spent more time floating with the current than traveling with a purpose. I’ve allowed circumstances to carry me along on my journey instead of traveling my own streams. I recognize that not resolving my indecision has given power to my inner demons and to conquer them… to truly flourish in this second half, I must show RESOLVE today as well as Beyond Today.  It’s hard to believe that Quitters Day is a real thing. You won’t find it on a calendar, but it is the day when eager and motivated people who set New Year’s resolutions, lose their motivation and quit. Statistical analysis using fitness apps and goal setting platforms, say that by the 2nd Friday in January (this coming Friday!) 80% of people hang it up. A 2007 study by Richard Wiseman of the University of Bristol found that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail by February, even though 52% of the study’s participants were confident of success at the beginning. The University of Scranton’s research suggests that ONLY 8% of people will actually achieve their New Year’s goal… which means 92% of resolutions fail! Why People Fail
When you read that list, does it hit home for you? Does it sound familiar? What Experts Suggest I pulled together a list of the common recommendations you will find in various articles, posted on websites, or part of a helpful meme.
Those are pretty good. It’s hard to argue with them, would you agree? Did you look at that list and say to yourself, “no problem”? I’m sure you have tried some variation of that list in the past and maybe it got you a little bit past Quitters Day, but did it get you to your goal? 5-Step IMPACT Coaching Process Everything above is just words unless you take action. That is what the 5-Step IMPACT coaching process is designed to do - get you into action in a way that makes sure you are focused on the right goal and that you have identified achievable pathways to hit that goal, WITHOUT having to travel that journey alone. Step 1. Connect the Whys We use several tools to understand your purpose and uncover your passions. We avoid HOPE and make sure that what you have the fire inside of you and is sustainable to push you on your journey. Step 2. Define the Goal/Vision of the Future State you want to achieve You have to be clear and realistic as to what YOU want to achieve. Not what your friend group or what social media tells you should want. But we focus on that true north and make sure it is aligned with your why. Step 3. Take time to define a pathway by working backwards from that Future State This is key. Most people treat their goals like a game of hide and seek. Waiting for people to tell them if they are hot or cold towards some goal. We use time to create understanding and alignment between the Whys and where we want to be. We work our way backwards, finding multiple pathways that can take you to your goal. Step 4. Identify milestones to measure progress on your journey Taking road trips are a lot easier when you have mile markers and road signs to let you know where you are and what’s ahead. You need to celebrate wins. Real wins. That starts by breaking down your journey into steps of a process that builds confidence and habits. Step 5. Foster ownership through accountability It’s the habits that are built through the process where the true value is found. This approach helps reinforce the ownership you have over decisions and what is in your control. Regular check-ins, not check-ons, helps establish ownership. Challenge to You You can definitely do this on your own. I’m confident in that. But will you? Didn’t you say the same thing last year? And the year before that? There is a famous quote that is typically misattributed to Albert Einstein, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Regardless of its origin, it’s gold. So this year, let’s try something new. Reach out because impact is a 2 way street and you don’t have to travel it alone. IMPACT Coaching is a great way to make sure you stick to your goal Beyond Today. If you find it challenging to hit your goals, reach out today and let’s have a free 30-min conversation about the next steps to make 2025 a year of impact for you.
https://www.iserve2lead.com/contact.html  Too often people enter a new year with optimism and hope only to quickly become overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy as the goals slip through their fingers day after day. These people who have the courage to set a goal and are committed to Being Better Today but end up succumbing to frustration and trade in their excitement for disappointment can be divided into two camps:
The Future State In one of my first blog articles, I wrote about the visionary who focuses so much on the future that they failed to see the actions that needed to occur right in front of them. They see the picture that they want to paint and focus on the frame they will put it in, and paint the room where they will hang it, and rearrange the furniture to make sure the painting is highlighted. But they never pick up the brush. They never took the time to prepare and learn how to depict shadows and blend colors. They didn’t purchase the right brushes or easels required to actually paint the picture. Focus on Actions Then you have the people that spend all their time focused on the actions directly in front of them. They take a Bob Ross painting class to learn how to create happy trees. They buy all the latest how-to-books, they begin converting a room to be a studio and they outfit it with all the latest and greatest equipment needed. They get watercolors, acrylics, pencil, chalk… because they are not sure what they are really wanting to paint. They stay busy doing a little bit of everything. Half-finished paintings are stacked up against the wall. Crumpled papers litter the floor with incomplete drawings. They are spending a lot of energy and time but also are no closer to their ideal picture because they don’t have a clarity to what they actually desire for their picture. Finding the Balance by Defining the Journey If you are tired of not achieving your annual goals, then you need to start by changing YOUR behavior. You don’t have to make drastic changes, but there are two things you must do if any journey is going to be successful.
If you want to go from Point A to Point B, well, you better know what Point B looks like or how will you know when you get there? You could wander in the wilderness searching for an elusive place that you will never find. Or you could be one step away from achieving your goal, but since you hadn’t defined it accurately, you had no idea you were almost there. Define Your Point B Take the time to define your future state or your Point B, first, and do so using future terms. In my future state: “I weigh 185 lbs. and finished the annual Turkey Trot 5k without walking at any stage.” “I shared my published book on ‘The Use of Millennial Slang by Gen X Dads’ to all of my family members and friends as a Christmas present.” When you use the future state to define your goal it reinforces in your mind that you can and will achieve it and it provides real clarity to what success looks like. It is 185 lbs. It is by the Turkey Trot. The book is published by Christmas. Define Your Point A Now that you have Point B defined, it’s time for the hard truth and self-reflection of where you currently reside. Take off the rose-colored glasses, remove the filter from your selfie app. Where are you now? How much do you weigh? How active are you? What is your diet? What habits contribute to your current state? What do you need to Keep, Start and Stop doing? Do you know anything about Millennial Slang? Have you created an outline for a book? Do you even like to write? Even though you learned in school that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line, life is NOT a geometry problem. The reality is that there is an infinite number of paths that take you from Point A to Point B. The great news is that ANY path can get you there. The bad news is that it is easy to get lost if you don’t have a good map. Creating a Map by Working Backwards They say hindsight is 20/20 because you can look back at your steps and see how you made it to where you are today. That doesn’t mean it was the BEST path, only that it was A path that got you there. But the concept holds true. Work your way backwards from that future state by asking questions to provide clarity. Q: “What needs to happen for me to run a 5k without stopping? A: Well, I need to lose weight and increase my stamina. Q: “How can I increase my stamina? A: Combine jogging and walking until I am only jogging. Q: “What’s the best way to do that?” A: Download a Couch to 5k app and begging using today. At some point, I will come back to point A, where I am today, and it will meet up with my current ability to walk a 5k. This is my path! Now, identify the milestones that you will use to measure your progress. When you compare this to the timeline, is it realistic? Do you need to find a different path, or do you need to adjust your goal? What potential obstacles exist that could cause you to stumble or lose your way? What alternate routes exist for you to make sure you stay on your journey to achieve your goal? If you want to have success on your journey, you need to know where you are and where you are going. Yes, it sounds simple, but when you reflect on those times you failed to hit past goals, where did you stumble? Had you defined your path clearly? The journey of life is not a straight line but a pathway full of potential. Having a well understood map that highlights various paths as well as potential obstacles, will enable you to navigate through the tough times that you will face. The probability of successfully navigating your journey is dramatically increased when you start with your future state and work backwards, to get Beyond Today. If you find it challenging to hit your goals, reach out today and let’s have a free 30 min conversation about the next steps to make 2025 a year of impact for you.
https://www.iserve2lead.com/contact.html  Recently, I was blessed to give the keynote at a retreat where the theme centered around recognizing your Superpower. It was a truly inspiring experience for me to see an energized group that was leaning into the concept and used the two days to build and strengthen connections with those they work with.
As a superhero fan, I geeked out and jumped at the chance to share my own superpower, IMPACT. There were so many ways I could go with the Superhero theme. But when giving a talk, the danger is that you make the talk about you which can be interesting, but only if you can relate it back to the audience. So, my focus turned to their superpowers and how can I help them to see the impact that they can and do make in others. After spending time having them share their superpowers but also building trust through transparency by sharing their “kryptonite”, I shared my “origin story” about My Day of Impact. No, it wasn’t a radioactive spider, but it was pretty traumatic, nonetheless. While sharing the story of flatlining due to a Widow Maker experience may not be the inspiring and energizing story initially, it is relatable to people who may have experienced it through a loved one. The fact that I was able to stand in front of them and share my story allowed me to turn to humor and positivity to get things back on an upbeat path. Being open and vulnerable allowed me to build a deeper connection with the audience and we were able to uncover ways that our superpowers impact others. We also were able to unpack and gain awareness and appreciation for how other people’s powers impact them. How often does “Imposter Syndrome” set in and we discount our own value? How often do we take for granted the Impact we bring to the team? How often do we overlook what others contribute as we focus on our own situation? Becoming aware of your own superpowers is special. Realizing that you are surrounded by people with superpowers of their own is impactful. Teaming up to form your own Avengers or Justice League is when the full potential of your team becomes undeniable. At that point, we turned the focus to putting the power to use. In the immortal words of Uncle Ben Parker, “With great power comes great responsibility.” Creating action plans and commitments to yourself and your team helps form that stronger bond. It’s the “oath” that you will use your superpower for the greater good. What everyone needs to understand is that your superpower is unique to you. While a lot of people may have similar powers, but how you wield your powers, how you uniquely communicate and relate your powers to others, that is who you are, and it is how others see and experience you. My superpower of Impact is found in each and every one of us. We all have the ability to be a Person of Impact in the lives of others. How we choose for that impact to be felt is up to us. That’s the challenge, to use your superpower everyday - at work and in life - to keep making an impact in the lives of others so that they can make an impact as well. This is how your superpower makes an Impact that goes Beyond Today. |
AuthorTom Brown - a husband and a father who is simply trying to make a difference. Using my experience as a Manufacturing Executive to connect leadership from the boardroom to the hardwood to help teams grow and develop to make a difference in the lives of others. 
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